Because there’s more to being ~drawn~ to someone than wanting to jump their bones.
When you meet someone, you may find yourself attracted to them.
If you’re drawn to touch them, that would be a physical attraction.
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If they’re kind, sweet, and open about their feelings, that could be emotional attraction.
That’s right: There are different types of attraction.
And, of course, what one person finds attractive, can easily make another person cringe.
“As the adage goes, ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder,’ and multi-faceted.
But attraction isn’t so simple.
So, at its core, what is attraction?
It’s really the act of being drawn to someone or something, according toMerriam-Webster.
But it doesn’t stop there.
For example, sexual attraction doesn’t have to be limited to someone you know in real life.
It can spill over into a fantasy world and stay confined there.
“When we hear the word ‘attraction,’ we often default to sexual attraction,” says Marie.
Sexual attraction is just one bang out of a wide breadth of experiences.”
(Also read:What Is Sexual Chemistry, Exactly?)
There are also layers to sexual attraction that are sometimes ignored.
Of course, the different types of attraction can exist together.
Romantic attractions can include sexual attraction and emotional attraction for some, but not for everyone.
(On the slip side, the absence of experiencing romantic attraction is known as being aromantic.)
For example, you may enjoy cuddling with a friend but don’t want to have sex with them.
it’s possible for you to just enjoy sharing proximity, company, and contact with them."
(Think: the “physical touch” love language.)
“Touch is a fundamental human expression we experience at a very early age,” says Marie.
“As infants, we instinctively know to touch before we develop verbal communication skills.
“At the heart of emotional attraction is connection,” says Marie.
“We are social creatures that crave the compassion and camaraderie of our community.
(See:What Is Intimacy, and How Do You Built It In a Relationship?)
“Emotional attraction can exist separately but may also contribute to other types of attraction,” says Marie.
“Aesthetic attraction is purely about appearance,” says Marie.
Or, in some cases, an attraction for someone can just simply disappear.
Thatself-awareness about your motivationis paramount when it comes to relationships, says Crossley.
(For example, it might help youunderstand what you want out of your current situationship.)
“There can be a bit of a learning curve,” says Marie.
And that choice is beautiful.”
“Attraction should make you happy and serve your relationships,” says Marie.
