(But abusive behaviors and situations are an exception, says O’Reilly.
Spoiler: Don’t instantly throw in the towel.
Potential Red Flags In a Relationship
They want to have you all to themselves.
(That’s just one sign you may be ina toxic relationship.)
They don’t seem to recall happy memories of your relationship with fondness.
Your instinct might be to call it quits, especially if your S.O.
They’re not taking care of themselves when they have the resources.
This potential red flag in a relationship could be a sign your S.O.
doesn’t value themselves, says Wright.
You’ve stopped engaging in conflict.
your finances, your education, etc.)
can be a good thing.
They’re unwilling to communicate.
You’ve stopped having sex and you’re not talking about it.
First things first, it’s perfectly okay to put a pause on your between-the-sheets activities, says O’Reilly.
They constantly talk about how little money they have but they’re big spenders.
But when you first notice it, it’s important to view their actions with empathy, says Wright.
“It could just be that the person is feeling embarrassed,” she says.
“Maybe they just paid a huge medical bill and they’re feeling insecure at the moment.
What is it that you want?
Does this issue matter to you?
Why does it matter?”
Would you be open to that?'"
“Be honest about your vulnerable feelings e.g.
fear, insecurity, sadness,” adds O’Reilly.
“Relationships can be repaired in many cases, but if you hide your authentic emotions (e.g.
withdraw to avoid feeling vulnerable), you’re more likely to exacerbate the problem,” she notes.
Regardless of the issue, know that these conversations likely won’t be easy but that’s okay.
“It can be uncomfortable, and uncomfortable doesn’t mean bad,” says Wright.
“That’s how we grow.
We only grow when we’re uncomfortable.
It’s very rare that we grow from the status quo,” she says.
