We both had our Venus in water signs, which had to mean something, right?
I was wholly convinced we were soulmates.
He never wrote back.
To this day, it remains the most cringey thing I have ever done.
I dont recommend it, says astrologer Lisa Stardust.
A birth chart just tells you what qualities you could bring out in each other when youre together.
Its not the end-all, be-all of a relationship.
As Stardust says, Everyone is more than their chart.
Dating experts advise against cosmic snooping, too.
you’ve got the option to do this by asking more meaningful questions during early dates.
You have to be really curious about them, he says.
[Find out] what puts light in their eyes and what dims them.
Shan Boodram, Bumbles sex and relationships expert, compares good astrological compatibility to liking the same sports team.
I think thats as far as it reliably goes, she says.
Instead, she points to five other ways to assess compatibility.
you better focus on if there really is something special about this person, she says.
Birth charts are never meant to be prescriptive, astrologers say.
A reading wont tell you that youre going to end up with an Aries, she says.
The stars can also guide you toward ideal timing.
Dating is hard enough as it is.
You dont need to ask the entire universe for its opinion every time you match with a new person.
Rather, show up with a healthy sense of curiosity and go from there.
If youre having fun, thats all it’s crucial that you know planets be damned.
