Weddings
She was my oldest friend.
Now we no longer talk.
Then theres Thu, who goes by@lazygirlglam22on the app.
Lets talk about howweddings can be the end of some friendships, she said in a June 23 video.
The ask highlighted how lopsided the friendship had always been.
As a result, Thu ended their relationship and didnt go to the wedding.
We have a hard time confronting painful truths in our lives, she tells Bustle.
The high-intensity emotions surrounding a wedding or engagement can make these friendship reckonings all the more explosive.
Below, brides and bridesmaids who have seen it all share how weddings lead to best-friend breakups.
The pair had been best friends since childhood, after all.
As Rhias maid of honor, her friend was responsible for booking vendors, like the photographer and florist.
I gave her $3,000 for deposits … and she was assuring me everything was ready.
She even sent me pictures of things, like centerpieces and signs for the reception.
Then, a week before the big day, Rhia realized her friend hadnt actually booked anything.
She had been sending me fake photos from Google and wedding blogs.
She didnt attend the wedding and she never apologized.
[Its been years] and I havent spoken to her, Rhia says.
I still dont know why she did it.
We say its like the plot of a Hallmark movie.
But it was so bizarre at the time and it sucks not having closure.
More Money, More Problems
For Thu, reaching for her wallet was nothing new.
She often found herself spoiling her friend Jenna* throughout the decade-long friendship.
The total cost was over $3,000 dollars.
When Jenna got upset, Thu instantly realized Jenna had never spent a dime on her.
She also often forgot important dates, like Thus birthday.
We really considered each other sisters, Nina says.
She was my ride-or-die.
As Laura began to plan her wedding, Nina watched as Lauras normally sweet personality did a complete 180.
At a pre-wedding get-together, Laura even snapped at Nina to get off her phone.
I felt sick being there, she says.
It got to the point I was scared to say or do anything wrong.
After months of stressful interactions, Laura eventually sent a breakup text to Nina, ending their friendship.
Its so f*cked that this process turns so many people into monsters, she says.
According to Hayes, many brides act like this because they feel protective of their fairy-tale experience.
Ghosted And Gutted
Azalea and her friend Sarah* had been inseparable since they were 16.
But after the move, the friends started to drift apart.
Things went downhill even more when Sarah found out about Azaleas engagement via Instagram.
I hadnt had the chance to make my rounds with friends and family.
Immediately, Sarah started acting cold and distant.
The shift was especially obvious during Azaleasbachelorette weekendin the Catskills.
After Sarah flew back home, Azalea offered to talk about the weirdness of the weekend.
At this point, my wedding was five weeks away, she says.
She had already RSVPd, but by the week before the wedding I still hadnt heard from her.
She was my oldest friend.Now we no longer talk.
While some friends understand that youre busy or that your roles are shifting, others take it personally.
According to Hayes, this is yet another factor that drives friends apart.
Weddings highlight these shifts they also show which relationships are worth saving.
Looking back on her pre-wedding days, Azalea agrees.
She was bossing me around and telling me what to do, and I hated every minute of it.
Their friendship never fully recovered after the I dos and the two lost touch soon after.
Now, a decade later, Brittany still doesnt speak to Kim.
I have no interest in reaching out, she says.
I cant get over how she acted that day.
But sometimes, thats for the best.
It seems like my relationship was eventually going to end, Thu tells Bustle.
The wedding just sped up the process.
*Names have been changed
