It’s A Pleasure
My friends say I’m overreacting.
Otherwise, we just have sex in bed at the end of our dates, then fall asleep.
Rather than engaging in any sort ofemotional intimacywith me, it feels likesex is a box he is checking.
I’ve tried to approach this topic with him a few times.
He said that he views sex as something you do at the end of the night in bed.
I talked about how much I love having morning sex.
He was never down to try.
They couldn’t believe that I was “complaining” when I was still having orgasms.
It ended up making me feel really isolated, and I started second-guessing myself.
Am I overthinking this?
In my opinion, your friends are looking at this all wrong.
To them, it seems like you ordered a burger medium rare and it came out medium.
And now everyone wants you to suck it up and eat the spaghetti and be grateful you got fed.
And maybe that would be fine one time, but now its every night.
A lot of things can make a person orgasm.
Some people climax fromab workouts.Or having to pee.
Or possibly evenhaving a baby.
Having an orgasm does not mean someone had good sex.
It just means their body responded to a stimulus.
Im very vocal aboutdetaching orgasms and good sexfor this exact reason.
Yes, you’ve got the option to come but are you turned on?
Are you excited to get it on with your partner?
Im not sure that your wants or needs even factor in here.
Hes treating you more like a sex toy than a sex partner.
He doesnt mind that youre bored and craving more intimacy.
And that far more than the sex being mediocre is my concern with him.
Most people have differentsexual preferencesthan their partner, fromtime of daytofavorite positiontokinkiness levelto frequency to duration.
Its incredibly unlikely for two people to match up flawlessly forever and ever.
All the differences you discussare addressable,but not with this guy!
He will not compromise and he certainly isnt mature enough to explain why.
He could tell you that!
So we have to assume hes just an ass.)
Theyre out there, I promise.
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