Of course, these women were right in their anger, but there remainedsometruth to Bumbles message.
Plenty of women stillwantto date and have sex even casually!
Is it really the end for us, too?
To be clear, thereisevidence that nearly everyone, men included, find dating harder these days.
See someone cute on your morning commute?
In the past, shes dated more straight men but grew discouraged with how quickly possessive they became.
I feel like people dont want to just f*ck anymore!
Meeting women in person is a struggle, too.
There are [around] 30 lesbian bars left in the U.S., she says.
There are plenty of young people still managing to find what theyre looking for both online and off.
Nomi, 29, tells me shes been navigating the apps well.
Shes had decent luck on Raya and Hinge, in particular.
Ive had a number of first dates, and theyve all ranged from fine to great, she says.
I think the key is to just be super discerning on the apps.
Isabella is familiar with meeting men the old-fashioned way, too.
Which has never happened to me before!
Its true: Dating has never really beeneasy.
Maybe you didnt find out about a fundamental deal-breaker until youd already invested three dates.
Today, that deal-breaker might be listed right on their Hinge profile.
The benefits of the digital shift arent merely a practical matter but one of safety, too.
And yes, men often do suck!
Unable to find that, theyd prefer to go without.
Even so, its normal to want to tap out for a bit.
Depriving ourselves of pleasure and possibility (if we desire them!)
only continues to place the responsibility and burden to change dating conditions and mens behavior back on ourselves.
Why should we be the ones who have to pay the price?
Were right to be pessimistic toward the apps.
Nevertheless, were doing ourselves an injustice by writing off sex and dating entirely because of it.
Sure, quit the apps!
But dont relegate yourself to a life of solitude.
As Freda-Colon suggests, focus on having fun, whatever that means to you.
Maybe you make a rule that you only do fun things on dates even first dates, she says.
So what would that look like for you?
Is it taking a walk?
Is it seeing a movie?
If not, you still did something positive for yourself, regardless.
Perhaps all of this cynicism is simply marking a breaking point.
It seems likesomethinghas got to give, and it will.
Even if many do continue to pursue celibacy, the way the rest of us date is changing.
These recent dating app campaigns are evidence that the brands themselves are trying to adapt.
Regardless, we can still figure out how to have sex and have fun.
