You don’t want to overlook these giveaways that the person you’re seeing is a narcissist.
Here’s what to watch out for.
Plus, what to do if you think your partner is a narcissist.
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What Are the Signs of a Narcissist?
But just because someone loves taking selfies doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a narcissist.
Inside, most narcissists are just really sad people."
How Do Narcissists Act In a Relationship?
In a word, toxic.
They don’t have any deep relationships.
One thing to keep an eye on is the person’s relationship’s with others.
“They view the person as an object; they’re replaceable.
And so they really only interact with people when they need to get something from them.”
They’re rude to strangers.
An easy distinction to pick up on is how they treat the people around you.
“If someone is really rude to waitstaff, that’s such a good indicator.”
“How do they speak to the waiters and waitresses?
Are they condescending to them?”
They devalue others.
“They will describe all of their exes as ‘crazy,'” says Zuckerman.
“Everyone was crazy that they were with.
It was never them, it was the other group theywere crazy.”
They take zero interest in your life.
“They never ask you how you’re doing.
It’s all about them.”
They may forget what you’ve already told them from date to date, says Zuckerman.
They love bomb you.
Another sign to watch out for very early on:love bombing.
This is when someone lavishes you with excessive gifts and/or praise early in the relationship.
Or they might refer to you as their “soulmate” by date number three, she says.
“In reality, it was a tactic, it was a manipulative strategy.”
After the love bombing phase, they’ll swear, “No, I’m going to change.
They gaslight you.
What Should You Do If You See Signs of Narcissism In Your Partner?
“People will leave and go back multiple times before they find a release.
“It is doable, but it can take years for the person to feel okay to leave.”
Unfortunately, it’s unlikely your narcissistic partner will seek therapy to make changes within themselves.
“They will always be like this with you, with somebody else.
They’re like this with everybody in their lives.
And therapy doesn’t help.
They resist going to therapy, they don’t have the ability to shift in therapy.”
“I always want people to know itcanget better,” she says.
However, the tricky thing is most narcissists will never get help.”
Her advice if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist?
“If you have an opportunity early on to get out, I would get out.”
