Romantic lovepervades history, geography, and culture.
It’s everywhere and very real no matter what the cynics might say.
And what she and her team discovered was pretty damn fascinating.
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Here, Fisher helps break down the science.
“We tend to fall in love with people under circumstances,” says Fisher.
From there, your brain takes over.
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In turn, that dopamine doeswhat dopamine does best: It rewards your brain with feel-good thoughts and feelings.
“It’s a drive; not an emotion.
Not to mention, bursts of norepinephrine can lead to euphoric feelings as well as hyperactivity.
How Long Does It Take to Fall In Love?
The simple answer: It depends.
Lovecanhappen instantly, says Fisher.
“It’s a basic brain system,” says Fisher.
But, for others, love can grow.
(After all, where there’s love, there’sthe possibility of heartbreak.)
Looking for a ballpark average for how long it takes to fall in love?
These new adventures will evoke excitement and pleasure, therefore rewarding the brain with dopamine.
Having sex also kicks dopamine into high gear.
(FTR, cuddling gives you a dopamine hit, too.)
It’s also about finding someone who fits into your “love map,” as Fisher calls it.
Or, it could still take time as you get to know them slowly.
“It’s like a sleeping cat; it can be awakened anytime.”
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However, Fisher does point out that there are a few fundamental traits when it comes to romantic love.
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“It’s positive illusions; the ability to overlook the negative and focus only on the positive.”
When you’re in love, the addiction centers in the brain become active.
There can also be jealousy, also known as “mate guarding.”
“Love is like a fever,” says Fisher.
“And it’s all involuntary… because of that very powerful brain system.”
I couldn’t agree more.
