I realized our relationship would never be the same, and that’s OK.
He grabs ahold of my life-jacket and laboriously yanks me onto the pebbly shore.
Frazzled and frozen to the bone, I don’t calm down until Maria comes running to hug me.
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“It’s OK, my sister,” she whispers soothingly over and over again.
“It’s OK.
I love you, I love you.”
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Best of all, it makes me feel closer to her than I had in months.
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has made it hard to dislike him.
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Not that I want to.
But what surprises me most is that I feel so possessive of my Maria, more than ever.
As often as I hug others, including strangers (I can be very welcoming, too!
), nothing feels as protective, loving, accepting, and right as her hold.
And now she’s holding Dave.Like all the time.
Suddenly, Dave willand has been since they met that fateful Labor Daybe her top priority.
And on top of that, the spouse provides things a sibling simply cannot.
So there’s no contest.
Not that I’m saying it’s a competition (but it totally is).
Learning to share her will take time, and I’m not there yet.
She’s very successful and has built a good life for herself there.
We’d have coffee, call our parents, go for walks, watch TV…it was lovely.
I ask, surprised by her word choice as she’s been happily married for 14 years.
“I’m so thrilled for you.
This is what you’ve wanted for a long time.
But, at the same time, I feel like I’m losing you.
Things won’t ever be the same.”
Yes, it’ll be different and likely good, but never exactly the same.
I can relate, sister.
