It’s A Pleasure
I’m recently single and don’t know what I’m doing.
The more contact you have with other people, the more chances you get for both joy and pain.
Sometimes, I get upset when someone honks at me in traffic!
The biggest rule of casual dating is to do it until its not fun anymore, then walk away.
Youre not always going to time that right, which can sting for one or both of you.
But as long as youre doing your best to treat yourself and others with respect, thats OK.
Emotionally fraught experiences often go hand in hand with some kind of lesson.
Or you might be like, Wow, Im actually kind of in love with Barnaby.
Theres no way to discover in advance what this phase of life might teach or give you.
In fact, the lessons and gifts might not become apparent for a long time!
So the goalmustbe to enjoy yourself.
I love it, but it doesnt necessarily make me feel closer to someone.
Maybe youll feel the same way.
Or maybe thats just not how youre wired!
So if you do wind up feeling more connected post-bang, thats very normal.
Catching feelings doesnt mean youre failing at your casual-sex project.
If it happens, you’re able to of course tell them.
If you like spending time with someone and enjoy having sex together, you might be like, …
This is basically dating?
Should we just date?Arewe dating?
But, of course, remember that feeling that way doesnt guarantee theyll be on the same page.
Youre still supposed to be a good person.
If someone isnt treating you with warmth, walk away.
The casualness of the arrangement should invite honesty, not insecurity.
Check in with yourself as early and often as possible.
or Am I developing feelings?
If so, what do I want to do?
That doesnt make you uncool or not chill or something.
Its no different than discovering youd rather watchLove Is BlindthanSuccession.
hey, sincerely, enjoy yourself and stop if you dont.
Its A Pleasure appears here every other Thursday.
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