And how to get a conversation going that doesn’t need a list of prompts.
There’s no doubt about it: First dates can be really daunting.
Reallylisten to what your date is saying.
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A good conversation (with anyone, date or otherwise) is about listening to the other person.
“you might’t possibly script a conversation without it feeling somewhat generic and out of flow.
Ask questions that dig deep.
After all, any possible future relationship can’t exist on you both loving pizza and the color blue.
A lot can be realized about a person on a first date.
Give them some wiggle room in their answers.
What they mean is exactly what they just said.
It’s totally okay to have dealbreakers.
Even if your friends think your dealbreakers are silly, that’s fine.
You don’t want to date someone who only wears white socks and hates wasabi?
That’s your call.
Realize it’s not just about you.
I mean, they might end up being someone you actually date.
“Dating is a two-way process,” says Xu.
It’s all about mutually figuring out whether the other person is the right fit.
Ready to take these tips and put them into action?
Here are over 50 of the best first date questions, according to experts.
