Dating
An investigation into men who don’t make plans.
Another date night with no idea where Im going or when!
I texted my best friend.
she wrote back immediately, herself in the exact same position 1,500 miles away in Austin.
This sh*t makes me insane and I cant understand the reason for it.
Are we in a stand-off?
Is this a game of chicken?
When I first started experiencing it I would question myself and be like did I say something wrong?
but I’ve become desensitized to it and just find it highly annoying.
Erin never heard from the ghoster again.
Why Are People Like This?
Men love vague plans, says Freid.
Dating apps were made [by men] so that men could be lazy.
And so that men could find multiple options without chance of failure …
Historically, men have been expected to pursue women, but were not in a Jane Austen novel.
Daniel, a 25-year-old software engineer, backs that up.
And its probably more so coming from a place of their own struggles [rather] than anything else.
Should You Just Plan It Yourself?
For starters, consider just sending the damn text.
Im super flattered when a woman suggests a date, asks me out, or makes a plan.
Alternatively, Freid advises giving people the tools they need to succeed.
Youve given them all the tools, all they have to do is put the house together.
But theres a catch, he says.
