It’s all about communication.
So, how do you tell them you want more than a casual relationship?
Sorry, but there’s no simple answer.
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How to Go From Casual to Committed Relationship
double-check you want this.
Step back and ask yourself some serious questions, suggests Trespicio.
Do I have fun with them?
Is my mood elevated when I’m with them?
Do I feel good about myself after we part ways?
Do they improve my life?
Do I feel respected?
“That’s convincing yourself of something that’s probably not right,” says Trespicio.
Don’t rush to DTR immediately.
Do they seem genuinely interested in what you have to say?
Do they have as much fun on dates as you do?
Yes, yes, and yes?
Bring it up lightly.
Don’t feel like you oughta stay in the dark forever, though.
Above all, keep the tone light and maintain open lines of communication.
If they aren’t open to a discussion, let them mull it over for a couple of weeks.
Unplug to connect.
Think beyond dinner and drinks for your next date.
Restaurants can be nice, but try something a little outside your comfort zone from time to time.
Plus, the dates your partner comes up with can also give you some insight into how they feel.
Let your selfless side shine.
(Not to mention, doing good deeds on the regular is the right thing to do.)
“Giving back to others shows your good heart and integrity,” says Kelman.
and make your hopeful S.O.straight-up swoon.
Maintain your autonomy and theirs too.
“Trying to be someone you’re not is so transparent,” says Kelman.
Not to mention and this is important!
Can’t get enough of gardening?
Not to mention, you’ll avoid putting your relationship overyour own sense of self.
Show you care.
“People appreciate and want to be with someone who makes them feelamazing,” says Trespicio.
