Celebrity
Every star has their own perspective on relationships.
Dating Advice
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Rihanna: Make time for your relationship.
It was like, I need to make time for this.
Just like I nurture my businesses, I need to nurture this as well.
She was like, That things will work out?
and I said, No!
That this will end and I will finally move on!
She was like, Oh, sh*t. Sorry.
Beyonce: Build a foundation.
Taylor Swift: Take breaks from dating.
Swift toldEsquirein 2014 that she had been single for a long time, and learned a lot from it.
Ariana Grande: Complete yourself first.
In 2017,Ariana Grande toldCosmopolitanthat shes learned how to put herself first before getting into a relationship.
Harry Styles: Dont Facebook-stalk your dates.
I said I’m not going to do that anymore, he said.
Priyanka Chopra: Respect each other.
Or if he makes choices that are important to him, so is your opinion.
Michelle Williams: Dont settle for less.
In 2018,Michelle Williams advised fansto never settle for anyone who makes them feel lesser.
If it doesnt feel like love, its not love.
Michelle Obama: Demand respect.
Thats why its so important to marry someone you respect, she said.
Jennifer Lopez: Think about what you need from a partner.
During a Tinder takeover in 2019,Jennifer Lopezgave a stern warning to a user of the dating app.
P!nk: Have high standards.
“They have to be kind, respectful, she toldCosmopolitan.
They have to be chivalrous.
They have to be good to their moms.
They have to be good looking, and they have to be funny.
Emma Watson: Make the first move.
Emma Watson isnt afraid to shoot her shot, gender norms be damned.
I actually took a man out for dinner, sherevealed in a Facebook Q&A.
Blake Lively: Be friends before dating.
It didn’t click for a good year and a half.
Jamie Foxx: Dont stop pursuing your dreams.
Jamie Foxx once told his daughters that no man should hinder their professional ambitions.
[He can’t be] afraid of you going to get your career,he toldPeoplein 2017.
Don’t take no back seat to nobody.
Sophia Bush: Relationships have different purposes.
Not every love can last forever.
Cameron Diaz: Timing is everything.
Cameron Diazshared her dating advicein a 2015 interview withCosmopolitan.
“You have to find someone in the same place as you are, she said.
Tiffany Haddish: Consider the first date.
In aGQvideo, Tiffany Haddish told men that going out to dinner or painting classes werethe best first dates.
That’s like a second or third date.
Nicki Minaj: Know your worth.
Nicki Minaj both promoted her 2018 albumQueenand gave solid dating advice in one post.
You were a Queen before him.
You’ll be a Queen after him, she wrote on Instagram.
He can’t make or break you.
Tom Hiddleston: Fight for love.
While defending his brief relationship with Taylor Swift in 2017, Tom Hiddlestonexplained the dating principlesthat he lives by.
You have to fight for love, he toldGQ.
You cant live in fear of what people might say.
You know, you have to be true to yourself.
Alec Baldwin: Spend time with each other.
Alec Baldwinhad some advicefor his niece Hailey Bieber when she got engaged to Justin at 22 years old.
Alana Haim: Only date strong men.
Haim sister AlanaremindedRolling Stonethat men are intimidated by womens success and suggested fans plan accordingly.
You need a man who’s strong enough, to paraphrase Sheryl Crow.
Rihanna: Accept people as they are.
Speaking toBritish Voguein 2018, Rihanna said its important to not get caught up in the idea of someone.
Wedding & Marriage Advice
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Meryl Streep: Have the tough conversations.
You have to talk about all the issues that arise, even the smallest things, she said.
Victoria Beckham: Spend quality time together.
Ryan Reynolds: Practice empathy.
In anInstagram post for Humans of New York, Reynolds emphasized how Lively has made him a kinder person.
She always responds with empathy, he said.
She meets anger with empathy.
She meets hate with empathy.
Shell take the time to imagine what happened to a person when they were five or six years old.
And shes made me a more empathetic person.
Will Smith: Work on yourself individually.
In 2015, Will Smith told Entertainment Tonight thathe and wife Jada Pinkett-Smithfocused on themselves to improve their marriage.
Jada Pinkett-Smith: Practice forgiveness.
On Pinkett-Smiths side, she shared marriage advice that was passed on to her on Instagram.
A wise man shared with me yesterday one word responsible for his 24 years of marriage, she wrote.
You know what that word was…forgiveness.
Jessica Biel: Communication is key.
In 2018,Jessica Biel emphasizedthat communication was how she and husband Justin Timberlake kept their marriage intact.
Kristen Bell: Be vulnerable.
Vulnerability always begets connection and intimacy, she said.
Beyonce: Realize your self-worth.
In 2013,Beyonce toldGQthat she remains independent and doesnt base her self-worth on her husband Jay-Z.
Your self-worth is determined by you.
You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are.
Neil Patrick Harris: Talk everything out.
Know where you’re standing as opposed to letting stuff build up.
Sarah Jessica Parker: Learn from each other.
You and your partner are going to change, she toldPEOPLE.
I still just really like him.
Im sure I annoy him and he annoys me, but I literally learn about him every day.
Im like, Youre doing what?
Denzel Washington: Keep your mouth shut.
After celebrating his 35th anniversary with wife Pauletta in 2018, Denzel Washington shared his secrets withPeople.
I do what Im told.
I keep my mouth shut, he joked.
Nicole Kidman: Focus on the us.
You go, Does this work for us?
When you make an us, it’s yours together.
That’s what you create.
Nobody else has that.
It’s just between the two of you.
Michelle Obama: Dont be afraid of counseling.
Former First Lady Michelle Obama said that she and husband Barack worked on their relationship with a counselor.
Ryan Gosling: Put family first.
Salma Hayek: Sacrifice your social life.
We want the other one to strive, she said.
[It] makes you happy when the other one strives.
Tina Fey: Dont get fussy.
Before Tina Fey married husband Jeff Raymond,her mother-in-lawgave her sound advice.
She said, My only advice for marriage is don’t fuss too much, she recalled to BuzzFeed.
She’s a little Southern lady, and it’s so true.
Like, who cares?!
Tom Hanks: Marry the right person.
Tom Hanks said hismarriage to Rita Wilsondoesnt take much effort to keep afloat.
We give each other a natural sense of support for whatever the other wants to pursue.
Our marriage doesn’t require vast work.
Ellen DeGeneres: Understand each other.
When we got married, Portia’s line was, It’s good to be loved.
It’s profound to be understood.
Sean Lowe: Commitment is paramount.
Emily Blunt: Have the same professions.
Nick Offerman: Be a good listener.
Compromise always leads to more kissing much quicker than obstinacy does.
Lauren Conrad: You have to compromise.
The hardest is compromise, she wrote in a blog post.
You always want to be considerate of each other.
It’s not just about you anymore.
Freddie Prinze, Jr.: Understand each others priorities.
Freddie Prinze, Jr. and Sarah Michelle Gellar credit their marriage tohaving friendshipas a solid foundation.
She knew what kind of guy I was.
She knew what my morals were, what my priorities were and vice versa.
Thats probably the main reason why weve always been cool and groovy.
Ruth Bader Ginsberg to J.Lo: Dont listen to everything.
It helps sometimes to be a little deaf, she said.
Gabrielle Union: Stop listening to advice.
Gabrielle Union perhaps has the most unique relationship tip:stop listening to other advice.
My ‘perfect’ relationship isnt the next persons, she told Ebony.
Stop comparing your life, your love and your marriage.
Everyone [doesnt] have to match for it to be real, amazing, and beautiful.
It only needs to be to you.
Sex & Intimacy
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Nick Jonas: Make a good playlist.
It’s important to have a good playlist and I certainly have mine, he said.
I would be thrilled if someone used my music on theirs for that experience.
Joe Jonas: Try new things.
Jonas big brother Joe also has some sex advice of his own, which includes embracing some kinks.
Everyone should try a little bit of something new in the bedroom,he told PrideSource.
Chrissy Teigen: Join the mile-high club.
We were on our way to Thailand to see my parents, flying commercial first class, she said.
We were under a blanket.
We werent even in one of those pod things.
I feel like we should get a trophy for that.
Khloe Kardashian: Dirty talk rules.
In a2016 blog post, Khloe Kardashian made it clear that she requires dirty talk in the bedroom.
If my guy isn’t vocal, I’m not excited.
How am I supposed to know if he’s enjoying himself?
Kristen Bell: Schedule sex.
Kristen Bell explained toSelfthat itsometimes takes extra planningto keep your marriage spicy.
There are some times when it’s in the calendar, she said about sex.
Snooki: Get loud.
Just being, like, a porn star, she joked.
EmRata: Self-confidence is key.
To feel good in the bedroom, Emily RatajkowskitoldGlamouryou have to feel good with yourself.
Amy Poehler: Never fake it.
Just remember to allow yourself real pleasure and not worry about how long it takes,” she wrote.
God punished us with the gift of being able to fake it.
Show God who the real boss is by getting off and getting yours.
Christina Aguilera: Just relax.
Christina Aguilera toldMaximthat she likes to let go of control in the bedroom.
I’m not the girl who’s going to be too tired.
I think every woman should relax and allow herself to be pleased in the bedroom.
Camila Mendes: Stay connected.
Ive never liked this idea of dont give him everything,she toldCosmopolitan.
Like youve given someone all of yourself by having sex with them.
Whats valuable to me is giving you my love and my intimacy.
Lili Reinhart: Sex is different with everyone.
For MendesRiverdaleco-star Lili Reinhart, its important to consider how your bedroom needs may change.
The idea that sex is going to be the same with everyonethats a misconception, she toldCosmo.
What you want, what feels good to you, its going to change with every partner you have.
Jenna Dewan: Keep it spicy for you.
To keep things spicy with a partner, Jenna Dewan says you have to liven things up for yourself.
People always ask, ‘Do you do anything to keep it fresh for your man?
I hate that question.
I do things to keep it fresh for myself.
The lingerie I buy is not for him necessarily.
It’s for us and for myself.
If you feel sexy, then it’s good for you.
John Stamos: Communicate desires.
In Ali Adlers bookHow to F*ck a Woman,John Stamos shared his own tipsthat hes learned.
It’s about listening, asking, talking, he said.
With women, you have to listen to their bodies.
Zoe Saldana: Get on top.
Sofia Vergara: Get dressed up.
Speaking toCosmopolitanin 2013, Sofia Vergara suggestedchanging up your lookin the bedroom but not every night.
But I do wear negligees and Japanese silk robes.
Heidi Klum: Show your wild side.
Heidi Klum encouraged fans not to hide their wild side in the bedroom if they have one.
Kate Upton: No sex after work.
If he plays too well, there’s no sex after, either.
It’s kind of a buzzkill for me.
Jada Pinkett-Smith: Try new locations.
Pinkett-Smith encouraged fans toliven up their sex livesby trying it out in new locations.
Have a fantasy date.
Your girlfriend’s house at a party.
Just switch it up.
Anything like that can keep it going.
Don Johnson: Get older.
According toMiami Vicestar Don Johnson,intimacy only gets betterwith age.
You actually get better at it, he toldRadio Andyhost Andy Cohen.
I have turned it into a science.
Tiffany Haddish: All about hygiene.
No matter how long youve been seeing the person, Haddish says tonever forget about hygienein the bedroom.
Good hygiene equals good sex, she told James Corden.
And fellas, you gotta go ahead and put that hot dog in some hot water.
Soak that thing, get some baking soda as well.
Keeping The Spark Alive
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Alicia Keys: Surprise each other.
Alicia Keys toldPEOPLEthat she and husband Swiss Beatz surprise each other with spontaneous weekend trips.
Those are my favorite times.
Justin Timberlake: Keep going on date nights.
Even when you get married, you have to keep dating, he said.
The difference comes when you have kids, and you have to actually schedule the date.
Sarah Jessica Parker: Lead separate work lives.
We have lives that allow us to be away and come back together, she said on theGirlbossRadiopodcast.
I think that thats been enormously beneficial because we have so much to share in a way.
John Legend: Travel together.
You still have to have romance time.
Chrissy Teigen: Travel alone.
Travel away from each other a lotthat helps,she said.
We’re not together 365.
It’s nice to be able to really be like, Oh my gosh, I miss you.
I miss you so much.
That works for both of us.
Ayesha Curry: Get dressed up.
Ayesha Curry toldAccess Hollywoodthatshe and husband Steph Currykeep things fresh by still going out on formal date nights.
Steph Curry: Keep it spicy.
Im just hanging out and admiring you, and seeing how beautiful she looks, he said.
Faith Hill: Have your own space.
We both have our daily routines, and we have our own dressing rooms, she said.
We each have our own space to retreat to, so we do get time to ourselves.
Julia Roberts: Separate sinks.
Speaking to SiriusXM, Julia Roberts said two things have kept her 22-year marriage to Danny Moder alive.
Two bathroom sinks and lots of kissing.
Michelle Obama: Separate bathrooms.
Obama concurs with Roberts but takes it a step further by suggesting that coupleshave entirely separate bathrooms.
When [Barack] enters my bathrooms, sometimes I’m like, Why are you in here?
And he’s like, I live here.
Can I enjoy my bathroom too?
she joked to Oprah.
Judith Light: Live apart.
She lives in New York, hes in Los Angeles, and theytravel to see each other.
Its been the best, she said.
I highly recommend it.
I would never ask him to leave there and he would never ask me to leave here.
Jessie James Decker: Keep flirting.
Singer Jessie James Decker toldPEOPLEthat shedoesnt stop flirtingwith husband Eric Decker.
Men want to feel good they want to feel like their women love them, she said.
When they come home from work, dont start nagging them with questions.
Go up to them and give them a big kiss and ask them how their day was.
Goldie Hawn: Have compassion.
Goldie Hawn has several secrets that have kept her 41-yearrelationship with Kurt Russellrunning.
If you dont nurture that, and remember, youre done.
Kristen Bell: Fight healthily.
It felt so good, and I realized how incredibly toxic it was only after he pointed it out.
Aaron Paul: Stop arguing.
On the contrary, Aaron Paul toldEllein 2014 that henever fightswith his wife Lauren Parsekian.
My wife and I do not argue.
But we’ve never fought in our entire relationship.
Reese Witherspoon: Prioritize happiness.
In 2015, Reese Witherspoon toldGlamourthatconsidering each others happinessis essential in a relationship.
That’s a big part of my day, thinking, Is he happy?
And for him, Is she happy?
Chris Hemsworth: Dont be consumed by kids.
Barbra Streisand: Stay grateful for each other.
I’m telling you the truth, she toldExtrain 2018.
Kristin Cavallari: Miss each other.
Laguna Beachalum Kristin Cavallari says its good to give your partner some space in a long relationship.
I have always said, it’s kind of nice to miss each other, she said.
I think that’s how weve always kind of kept our spark alive.
Ashley Graham: Play the nice game.
It can’t be a physical [thing], because that’s obvious.
Blake Lively: Always stay together.
In 2017, Lively toldPEOPLEthatshe and Reynolds never worksimultaneously so their family can stay intact.
If were away as a family, its never more than for a day.
Ryan Reynolds: Troll each other.
Emily Blunt: Have a secret language.
Blunt said thatshe and Krasinski collaborate very wellwhen working together on a film like 2018sA Quiet Place.
We really trust each other, she toldE!at the time.We’re very honest with each other.
We sort of have a shorthand and secret language that ultimately is gonna work for us.
Maintaining Privacy
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Dolly Parton: Keep something to yourself.
Sarah Jessica Parker: Dont discuss it.
In 2014, SJP said thesecret to her marriage to Broderickwas, ironically, keeping things a secret.
“The secret is, we don’t discuss it, she told The Huffington Post.
To reporters or anybody else.
We don’t hold it up as an example and we don’t air our dirty laundry.
Zendaya: Limit what you share.
But I do have control over what I choose to share.
Its about protecting the peace and letting things be your own but also not being afraid to exist.
Kerry Washington: Process things privately.
Issa Rae: Friends shouldnt know everything.
Issa Rae toldSelfthat she became moreprivate on social media, especially about her marriage to Louis Diame.
Dakota Johnson: Spend time at home.
Millie Bobby Brown: Weddings are sacred.
While Millie Bobby Brown proudly announced her engagement to Jake Bongiovi, she wants to keep herwedding planning processprivate.
There are only so many moments in life that you get only once, she toldWomens Wear Daily.
Rachel Weisz: Dont have social media.
Were just really crap at talking about our private lives.
Taylor Swift: Dont hide too much.
Better put on a mask and stuff!
Whoopi Goldberg: Stay single.
Whoopi Goldbergs trick to keeping a marriage private isnot getting marriedat all.
Im much happier on my own, she toldNew York Times Magazine.
I dont want somebody in my house.
